Name changes and my sons happy as his friend was fine with the news

On Thursday night I went around to visit the parents of one of my son’s best friends. Initially my son did not want me to go around so I have been holding off but as my full time has got closer he has agreed me telling the parents and allowing them to tell his friend would be the best way.
So I went around and explained what was going on. It went really well and was almost a non event to be honest. They said they were going away for a few days on Saturday so would tell him then, but were sure him and his elder brother would be cool.
Two cups of tea later and discussion on clothes as well as me being asked advice on the merits of laser V electrolysis for hair removal I was on my way home.
My son was elated when he found out it had gone well. Now this was made better on Saturday morning. We were sitting down having breakfast together and he got a text. When he looked it was from his friend who wrote “My mum told me about your Dad, It is cool, nothing will change”
It was so sweet of his friend. I almost had a tear in my eye. My son wrote back and said “Thanks M8” in his typical I am really cool way!
So now I am going to tell the parents of his other good friend from school tomorrow. Hopefully this will also go well and he will have 2 of his best friends as allies to help him, should anything be said or done by other kids at school. They return after the long school holidays next Thursday.
In other news I have finished decorating my new room. I chose a nice light purple on 2 walls and cream on the other 2. After finishing the ceiling, doors, walls and skirting board the room feels bigger (although it is only 7 feet by about 9 feet in truth.) I can’t wait for my small double bed (the room is too small for a normal double) to arrive and then I can choose some soft furnishings.
I have cleared out the cupboard in there and will move as many of my clothes in as possible when my bed arrives.
As this is a long weekend with Monday being a holiday here, I decided to try a French manicure with a set my wife got me ages ago. After finding a lesson on U Tube I attempted it and although my nails are less than the ideal length, I am fairly pleased with my first attempt. Shame I will have to remove it all tomorrow night.
I also received the certified copies of my name change on Friday so have been writing some letters to get documentation changed.
I am going to send one to the bank and my credit card company on Tuesday to get new cards and account details changed.
I do have a second credit card with Virgin money and was really pleased to find that they did my name over the phone. I nearly fell off my chair when the man said that. I had just explained why I wanted the name change and he said don’t worry I will do it for you now. Apparently the new card will be with me in 4 – 5 days!
I also popped into my local blockbuster DVD shop on the way home from shopping today. After I chose a couple of DVD’s I went to the counter and asked to speak to the manager. When he came over she said “this lady wants to speak to you.” I asked for a private chat so we went somewhere quiet and I explained I am transitioning and needed my name changed on the system as I didn’t want any odd questions at the counter. He asked if I had any documentation so I showed him my deed poll.
He then said to me “no problem I will do it now it will only take a couple of minutes.”
We walked to the counter and less than 5 minutes later I was walking out with my DVD’s and my new membership card.
I have to say I am so far amazed at how easy this name change malarkey is going.
In the letter to my doctor I am enclosing the deed poll he asked for to enable him to change my NHS details but I also asked him for a letter confirming my transition is permanent so I can send it to the DVLA and the passport office. These departments require confirmation that the transition is permanent from your GP or the Gender clinic. Hopefully then I can get those documents changed also. In fact I was a bit cheeky and asked him for 2 original copies so I could send them off at the same time to avoid delay! (He can only say no I guess!)
Still dreading going full time at work and I am trying my best to put it to the back of my mind. I spoke to my counsellor on Friday night and told her my nerves about going full time were knocking my confidence somewhat.
I keep seeing a man when I look in the mirror now. I seem to be focusing on my flaws rather than my strengths.
I also keep wondering if I could or should have stopped short of going full time. I know it’s really because I am so scared of how things will go on September the 27th and the following few months.
Roll on Christmas!
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