Actions speak louder than words

I seem to have read a lot of blogs recently discussing labels and names on how to describe ourselves and how to differentiate ourselves.
I know defining who we are is important but all these arguments giving people complexes about whether they fit criteria to fit into category A or Category B etc seem a little strange to me.
I feel actions and feelings are much more important than words and names.
You know how you feel and other people can see how you act. Surely this is the best way to demonstrate who you are.
Trying to fit into a criteria that someone has created can be hard.
I know who I am now, and I am me. A woman born in a male body.
That will be corrected as best as modern technology allows, but technology alone does not mean I am a woman. Just having surgery does not change who I am.
I will act and be true to myself from now on in. If for some reason I cannot have surgery I am still me the same woman I would be if I do have surgery.
"And this above all unto thine own self be true and it shall follow as the day the night - thou can'st not then be false to any man." - William Shakespeare