I have been working on a letter to my work, to leave with them when I tell them about my transition. I sent a copy to my counsellor who had previously given me some advice on what to include and what not to.
She recommended some minor changes which I have adopted and now I am happy with the wording. It is written in a quite professional manner without leaving me exposed should they want to use anything against me.
I would also like to thank Lori who helped by sending me some recommendations as well.
I am having a chat with my counsellor tomorrow and will start thinking about when to tell the owner of our company.
I have been feeling on an even keel after the strange anxiety I had when I got back from France. My wife and I are also getting on really well.
We have been talking about her having some freedom now to find someone new in her life. I think she is feeling optimistic about the future and so she seems in a happy place right now.
I am ready to let her go and enjoy herself. It seems only fair. I know I will be a little jealous but I really hope she finds a nice fun man to be with.
It is strange but she does ask me now on my opinion on men and also asks if I fancy them or would go out with them. It’s really quite fun. I guess it shows how well we still get on but also that we are more like very close friends / sisters than a married couple.
She has agreed that she is happy for me to tell the school headmaster at both the junior and senior schools so I will be doing this before the summer break in 3 weeks.
Please help my friend Rebecca
7 hours ago
6 comments:
I'm glad to hear that you have got through the anxiety. I think it was only to be expected after such a great weekend, as yourself, in a totally different environment. You lived your new life for that weekend. Now you'll be more ready to deal with changes to come.
Great to hear that things are going well with your wife too.
So...do you fancy men? ;-)
You sound so much better than you have recently, I'm pleased to say.
I wish you all the best with your boss, and the schools.
Stace
Wow!
Yea, like Stace says, you sound more relaxed.
Hoping for the best at the schools!
It must take an incredible amount of strength to let your wife go like that, to allow her to take a new interest in men while remaining together. This shows me that every single relationship is unique and that we all have to find what works for us.
My wife and I had a long talk last night about her coming to terms with all this and how she worked through the process of moving forward. She finally acknowledged when she told a friend yesterday, "I'm not in love with Lori or Larry, I'm in love with the person she's always been and I don't want to lose that for anything." It blew me away and I'm grateful she's come to that point. Living like sister-friends wasn't ideally what I wanted, and I'm glad things are working for you all like they have been for me.
What a transformation indeed!
Veronica, I must say I am interested in men. Since my wife and I agreed that our futures were apart but still close, I have been doing a lot of thinking.
Utopia would be a millionair hunk of a man, early 40's confident strong and romantic, with a great sence of hunour.
If you know someone that fits the vill let me know!
Stace, Thanks
Lindsay, thanks I hope it goes well to.
Lori,
Yes it has been a bit difficult to let her go. Since we agreed that our future was going to involve a divorce at some point in the future, it forced me to see that eventually she woule and indeed should meet someone else that makes her happy.
I dont want to stand in her way. When she meets that special person I guess that will be the time for me to move out, but I dont want to until that time.
Thanks for being there.
x
After reading of so many couples becoming sworn enemies after a transition it is marvellous to hear of two people able to accept their love for each other and shared past and still want each other to be able to move forward to a new phase with shared emotions and memories intact.
No doubt the process will not be
without it's strains as you see each other move off in different directions but to be able to remain close friends will give you so much more than many we hear about.
Wishing you the best of luck with this part of the process.
Caroline xxx
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