On Friday the man who purchased our caravan came to collect it. They were a nice family and I wish them many years of happiness in it.
It was really quite sad to see it go. I went in to check it out an hour or so before he came. It was quite emotional really thinking back to all the great times we had in it. I looked at the 3 bunk beds and could picture my kids arguing over who was on the top. Then I could see them all snuggled up in just 1 bunk!
I did feel my eyes welling up a little while reminiscing.
I know we will have plenty of good times to come but it does seem like closure of sorts on part of the way things were.
Today we went to the Vauxhall garage we bought my wife’s 4 wheel drive from. I went with the intent of trading it in for a 3 year old Zafira and getting a lump sum of money back to help with clearing some more of our commitments.
While walking through the showroom my wife was struck with the Meriva. The price advertised was very good actually. So I enquired and after a lengthy negotiation and a test drive they agreed to give me a significant extra sum of money as a value of our car as well as more discount from the special price. So we ended up walking out with nearly as much as we had hoped for plus a brand new car. Lucky for me they have just released a new Meriva model and are desperate to get rid of their stock.
So now my wife is sorted for her transport for wherever her future may lead.
I had a chat with my children individually over the weekend to explain that it won’t be to long before I go full time.
I told them it is likely to be in the summer before they start there next school year. We chatted through their worries which mainly revolved around there concern that I show myself at their schools and clubs etc.
I assured them I was not going to embarrass them in any way and would do everything I could to make sure it was as smooth as possible. I told them that their Mum would take them and pick them up etc. I may also ask for a friend of another kid at the Rugby club to take my son.
It will be a bit heartbreaking not being able to go to school plays and parents evenings etc, but you never know in a couple of years they may be completely fine with it.
We explained to them that they should not feel the need to defend me if anyone says anything. They should talk to Mum or me and we will sort things. It is not their battle and I would hate to think they will end up fighting it. I will do everything I can to stop that happening.
I will be seeing the head teachers of the junior and senior schools they go to over the next few weeks to explain what is happening. I won’t be banner waving or making any major public announcements, only preparing the school Heads in case any issues arise in the future.
In all other ways they seem to be ok with it. In fact we popped into Next on the way home today and they helped me choose some lovely sunglasses and a pair of shoes to die for. I am planning on wearing these in the evenings on my trip to France with Caroline and Lucy next weekend.
Other than that I am sipping a glass of chardonnay (Australian) for purely research purposes such that I can compare it with the French wines next weekend. I do here that the French are capable of making some decent wine!
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7 comments:
Lisa, I am so glad that you were able to sit down with each child and just talk about the changes that were going to happen, you have set a wonderful example of love, caring and supporting each other for your children. You might have made their lives much easier to deal with. good for you.
Peace,
Sarah
You are doing so well, Lisa. I hope that before too long you can be a parent publicly again. You're giving your kids time and love, and that's bound to pay off for all of you.
You're inspiring!
Well done on the car.
You really are an amazing person. and as Sarah said, provide a wonderful example.
Best wishes,
Stace
Great blog Sarah. I also have young children and am planning on transitioning. The big step of telling them is coming up this summer.
It is always hard to sell a vehicle or in your case a camper, so many memories.
Hugs,
April
Now you are going to make me look dowdy!
Thought we were going to drink the 2euro coop plonk to save money, better pour it into some better old bottles.
Caroline xxx
Kids a fairly resilient and will likely adjust as long as the parents don't make too big of a deal out it. Of course it still is a bit embarrassing for them now and then. My one son more than my daughter. My daughter is fairly cool with it except when it comes to introducing a boy she likes.
It can make for some uncomfortable moments. Good to hear you're all talking though this.
Hi Lisa.
I would like to thank you for your very candid postings. You are providing a clear and understandable perspective into the process of a "later in life transition".
I would like to take this opportunity to explain my presence here just a bit more so that you and your fellow 'bloggers' may better understand my motivations.
I transitioned fully, 40 years ago, just after college, when I was just about 22. Except for a difficult recovery period from what was then still considered 'experimental' surgery, my transition was exceptionally "drama/trauma" free.
Once I had "got across" the gender/sexual divide, I never much gave it more than a passing thought.
Three years ago that changed when I heard about the Susan Stanton 'affair'. I was very surprised that such an awful thing could occur and was sufficiently outraged to again start "looking into it" with some interest. Over the years that "interest" has grown and begun to evolve into what seems to be some form of personal campaign for a greater understanding of people, individuals, like you and me, who have this...need(?), compulsion(?) to "BE" or "express ourselves" as a gender(?), sex(?) other than the one we were "apparently(?), "ostensibly"(?) born with.
This growing interest of mine has resulted in more and more requests for me to speak or "present" on these issues.
The truth is, I have only my own personal experience to draw on and what I have been learning by reading about the experience of others, by virtue of these blogs.
So...that is why I am here. I am here to learn from you all. I hope you will tolerate my presence and occasional unsolicited comment. I am here in good faith.
Thank you for having me. -Anne
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